I need advice... (LONG)

Coaster131 · #1 01-17-2002, 03:42 PM

I need help from you guys...

You remember my thread a while ago about my being in love with a girl? Her name is Michelle, ok? Anyways, she and Greg broke up in November...and I didn't go up to her and immediately ask her out...I'm not the rebound relationship guy. So suddenly one day as we're talking on AIM, she starts talking about her boyfriend and all. So I'm thinking she means Greg. Well, it turns out, some kid from her karate class, named Tom, started going out with her. The friggin kid is a grad out of high school already. So, that kinda destroyed me inside.

3 days later, she tells me that they're now just friends. this is late December, folks...about a week before Christmas. So then I start getting hopes again, seeing as she's currently single.

Next day rolls around, and suddenly they're back together and really serious about it all. My friend and I went to the mall to hang out that night and while we are in the Movie store (christmas shopping), Michelle comes up behind me and slaps me in the back...it's her way of saying hi. Figures...she's there with Tom. I pay for my 2 movies and walk out of there while she's looking away. I mean, it's one thing to tell me that she's going out with Tom...it's quite another to RUB IT IN MY GODDAM FACE! So, my friend and I continue on our way to the arcade for a few rounds of DDR 5th Mix. Go home, I go online. Lo and behold, Michelle is online.

She asks me why I suddenly left without saying bye....and I lie and say that I thought she had already left. She and Tom continue to go out whilst I am in Florida.

Now it's January...and 3 days ago I was talking with Michelle online again. I ask her to make my life a lot easier and to tell me if I had any chance with ever being able to go out with her at all. She says she doesn't know because she's dating Tom right now and can't make any decisions. I start going on about what the hell there is to decide about. All I'm asking is if she thinks that the two of us could ever be together! I could care less about Tom!

So I get this thing in the mail about High School upcoming events. Well well well, there's a dane coming up on February 15th. So, today in school, I asked her if she wanted to go with me. She says, "Oh, I'm going out to dinner with my family that night." HOW THE HECK DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING FOR DINNER 1 MONTH IN ADVANCE?!

So now I need your guys help. Leave her be and move on to the other girls in my school who are fake, or keep on trying?

antfarm007 · #2 01-17-2002, 03:49 PM

This girl sounds like shes a little crazy, so I'd stay away, but if she is the one, ask someone else to the dance and rub it in her face and she'll get jealous and then you decide what you are gonna do.

***Chip*** · #3 01-17-2002, 04:25 PM

Wow. You sure are getting worked up over this, but I guess I've been worked up over girls that I'd never get, too. Sorry, man. She sure sounds like she's not into you the way you're into her. I mean, that sounds like a lie of going out to eat with her family on the day of the dance, but I bet it was the only thing she could come up with instead of saying an outright "NO!" It sounds like she does not really like the fact that you're basically obsessing over her. Girls don't like that. I'm not trying to sound mean or anything, I'm just trying to tell you what I've learned from basically doing what you're doing. She sounds like a good friend and she doesn't want a relationship with you yet because you do not sound ready for it. Give it some time. Maybe you two will grow to like each other in a while, but she's not ready for you yet. Have you ever had a girlfriend before? Maybe you should try someone else. I know it kinda seems crazy when you think that she's the one, but you gotta get more options, man. There are plenty of fishies in the sea. Don't let this tear you apart. Give her time, and give you time to let some of this slide. Maybe things'll work out for the better. I know they have for me because I followed those rules.

About two years ago I met a girl at a summer program at the University of Arizona. I started to like her, but I don't think she liked me. I came on a bit too strong then and I don't think she was too impressed with the way I acted around her. I saw that she was out of my league and dated another girl I met, but I broke up with her soon afterwards because we didn't live anywhere near each other and a relationship would not work out. I still sorta had my eye on the first girl, but didn't dwell on it. We became really, really good friends and after the program we went our separate ways. A year and a half later, we started going to school at the U of A and a few months after starting school, we started dating. We've been dating for three months now, and we're best friends. Just give it time, man. Who knows? Maybe it'll all work out.

Amy · #4 01-17-2002, 04:55 PM

Yeah, sorry hun, but it seems to me that she doesn't have an interest.

First thing ask yourself, do you really want a girl who jumps from guy to guy like that? I mean, she doesnt' seem like she's one to be single for a long period of time. Second of all, you just asked her if she can ever see you guys together, and she responds with "I'm going out with..." Pure defense right there. Her saying that was a way for her to avoid answering the question. Lastly, saying that she's going out to dinner with her family a month in advance? Come on, even I can think of better excuses than that.

In all honesty, you can find someone better. She's not a great friend if she can't just come out and speak her true feelings. You'll find a girl who isn't fake soon enough, and who is crazy about you as well.

**Marcus** · #5 01-17-2002, 05:37 PM

Well the main thing to remember is...
IF YOUR GOING DOWN, TAKE HER WITH YOU
Heres the following suggestions in the CedarPointzterz Gurl Advice Book and Video Game
1. Never give up and continously stalk her to the grave.
2. Get Tom out of this, CPzTeR can help here because I have quick way of taking people out without any trail left behind.
3. Move on and make it a living hell for her by spreadin rumors about her like shes mental or has a bunch of rashes or sumthin
4. Get a fake bomb and tell her she must love you or youll set it off
5. If your rich, you can just pay her
6. You could tell her that Tom has turned homosexual and said he nevers wants to see her again
7. Steal her shoe and never give it to her so she will be begging gor her shoe for the rest of her life and shes always with you
8. Jealousy Postulate- Tell her you got this really hot gf and show her a picture of a hot gurl in a bathing suit and make fake handwriting saying a bunch of sexual stuff and show it to her and apologize for ever considering asking her out and ruining her realtionship and be sure to brag about your own relationship with this gurl. For any reason this should fail, you tell the gurl you really like that you dumbed her to be with the gurl you like.
9. As a last resort just keep trying to make a Love Potion

Warning- CPzTeR is not responsible for any actions taken by yourself, these are merely suggestions.

Coaster131 · #6 01-17-2002, 06:15 PM

Amy...please go out with me! I'm just kidding, lol.

I like CPzTeR's list of suggestions....I could use some of those. Thanks man!

Aaron · #7 01-17-2002, 06:15 PM

I'm not sure if this will work, but it worked for my friends. Try to follow this, it's a little confusing.
My friend wanted to go out with someone else, but that someone else didn't want to go out with them.
My friend talks to the friends of the person that they want to go out with.
The friends talk to the person that my friend wants to ask out and try to convince them to go out with my friend.
When that person has been "softened up", then my friend asks them out and they agree.
Personally, though, if I were you, I'd find someone else.

coastersrsweet · #8 01-17-2002, 06:33 PM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Coaster131 [/i]
[B]Amy...please go out with me! I'm just kidding, lol.

I like CPzTeR's list of suggestions....I could use some of those. Thanks man! [/B][/QUOTE]

I know you where kidding but why go out wit someone you don't know..... anyway I sgree with cedars advice...

Timonor · #9 01-17-2002, 06:57 PM

Obviously she has some interest in you because she still talks to you and kind of strings you along.
My guess is that she is just using you as a "safety net". What I mean is if she becomes single she knows she will always have you waiting for her. The same thing happened to me and I waisted a whole summer.
My advice would be, go out with other girls and if she really cares she will realize what she could have had. Good Luck

1984 v. 2.5 · #10 01-17-2002, 08:54 PM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by CeDaRPoInTzTeR [/i]
[B]Well the main thing to remember is...
IF YOUR GOING DOWN, TAKE HER WITH YOU
Heres the following suggestions in the CedarPointzterz Gurl Advice Book and Video Game
1. Never give up and continously stalk her to the grave.
2. Get Tom out of this, CPzTeR can help here because I have quick way of taking people out without any trail left behind.
3. Move on and make it a living hell for her by spreadin rumors about her like shes mental or has a bunch of rashes or sumthin
4. Get a fake bomb and tell her she must love you or youll set it off
5. If your rich, you can just pay her
6. You could tell her that Tom has turned homosexual and said he nevers wants to see her again
7. Steal her shoe and never give it to her so she will be begging gor her shoe for the rest of her life and shes always with you
8. Jealousy Postulate- Tell her you got this really hot gf and show her a picture of a hot gurl in a bathing suit and make fake handwriting saying a bunch of sexual stuff and show it to her and apologize for ever considering asking her out and ruining her realtionship and be sure to brag about your own relationship with this gurl. For any reason this should fail, you tell the gurl you really like that you dumbed her to be with the gurl you like.
9. As a last resort just keep trying to make a Love Potion

Warning- CPzTeR is not responsible for any actions taken by yourself, these are merely suggestions. [/B][/QUOTE]

Lol, man, you should write a book. And as for you Coaster131, exactly how hot is this girl we're talking about here. It sounds like if she's anything less than a 10, you should drop her like a bad habit (cliche). I'd stay in contact if I were you, you never know, she might mature. But if that doesn't work and she still keeps acting like a jerk, I'd suggest several of Cedarpointzer's suggestions, namely the one about the fake bomb and the homosexual thing, lol.

SonOfMontu · #11 01-17-2002, 09:02 PM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by CeDaRPoInTzTeR [/i]
[B]Well the main thing to remember is...
IF YOUR GOING DOWN, TAKE HER WITH YOU
Heres the following suggestions in the CedarPointzterz Gurl Advice Book and Video Game
1. Never give up and continously stalk her to the grave.
2. Get Tom out of this, CPzTeR can help here because I have quick way of taking people out without any trail left behind.
3. Move on and make it a living hell for her by spreadin rumors about her like shes mental or has a bunch of rashes or sumthin
4. Get a fake bomb and tell her she must love you or youll set it off
5. If your rich, you can just pay her
6. You could tell her that Tom has turned homosexual and said he nevers wants to see her again
7. Steal her shoe and never give it to her so she will be begging gor her shoe for the rest of her life and shes always with you
8. Jealousy Postulate- Tell her you got this really hot gf and show her a picture of a hot gurl in a bathing suit and make fake handwriting saying a bunch of sexual stuff and show it to her and apologize for ever considering asking her out and ruining her realtionship and be sure to brag about your own relationship with this gurl. For any reason this should fail, you tell the gurl you really like that you dumbed her to be with the gurl you like.
9. As a last resort just keep trying to make a Love Potion

Warning- CPzTeR is not responsible for any actions taken by yourself, these are merely suggestions. [/B][/QUOTE]

As you know, CPzTeR, I normally can't stand you (aka the brick wall). However, this was the funniest post I've ever read on the forums. I agree with the writing a book thing. I call dibs on first copy! LOL!:D

BrooklynRider · #12 01-18-2002, 08:37 AM

Time to move on. I think you are taking alot of what's going on in this girls life very personally. It seems the reality is that you are not on her radar screen. You are observing her life and I feel you are reacting as though you are a determining factor in each decision she makes which is clearly not the case. For instance, saying that she is rubbing her boyfriend in your face, when all she did by your desrciption is show up at a movie you happened to be at. It is disappointing to find yourself saddled with unrequited love. I don't think she's the villain or "crazy" as a matter of fact I think she is trying to be friendly and diplomatic. For instance, telling you she is going out to dinner with her family on the night of your dance (which could or could not be true - but is none of your business anyway), that statement is very diplomatic - particularly when you are putting her in a position to totally dis you by requiring her to answer that there is "no way you two will ever be together". I think she handled it gracefully. The best thing you could do is ask another girl to the dance and start focusing on that upcoming date.

**Andrew P** · #13 01-18-2002, 12:56 PM

Forget about her. It is my experience NOT to go out with girls that go out with one guy for a few days, then say their not, then say that they are again. To me, they don't want committment, and even if you did go out with her, I would not be surprised if she started leading you around. Just continue being her friend if you can. Don't go out and try to make her jealous, you will only end up hurting yourself more than her.

CeDaRPoInTzEr---

I've already been accused of stalking (which I deny 200%), so that doesn't work. But I do like your list. Got any more tips and I won't hold you responsible for my actions.

antfarm007 · #14 01-18-2002, 01:02 PM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by CeDaRPoInTzTeR [/i]
[B]Well the main thing to remember is...
IF YOUR GOING DOWN, TAKE HER WITH YOU
Heres the following suggestions in the CedarPointzterz Gurl Advice Book and Video Game
1. Never give up and continously stalk her to the grave.
2. Get Tom out of this, CPzTeR can help here because I have quick way of taking people out without any trail left behind.
3. Move on and make it a living hell for her by spreadin rumors about her like shes mental or has a bunch of rashes or sumthin
4. Get a fake bomb and tell her she must love you or youll set it off
5. If your rich, you can just pay her
6. You could tell her that Tom has turned homosexual and said he nevers wants to see her again
7. Steal her shoe and never give it to her so she will be begging gor her shoe for the rest of her life and shes always with you
8. Jealousy Postulate- Tell her you got this really hot gf and show her a picture of a hot gurl in a bathing suit and make fake handwriting saying a bunch of sexual stuff and show it to her and apologize for ever considering asking her out and ruining her realtionship and be sure to brag about your own relationship with this gurl. For any reason this should fail, you tell the gurl you really like that you dumbed her to be with the gurl you like.
9. As a last resort just keep trying to make a Love Potion

Warning- CPzTeR is not responsible for any actions taken by yourself, these are merely suggestions. [/B][/QUOTE]

Pure Genius! I wish I could have had the book when I was in Jr. High...

Coaster131 · #15 01-18-2002, 02:35 PM

I've made the decision:

MOVING ON!

I've decided I don't need her crap anymore. I finally pulled it out of her today that everything she did was to keep me away. Well, that may be, but I don't really give a flying frig anymore, heh heh heh. In the next few weeks, Howell High School is going to see a new Kyle Brylczyk. Michelle doesn't believe me, but I WILL prove her wrong. :=

Yep...this is my real, inner side: :=

Hope you guys have a good weekend. As for me? Well, I'm stuck here at home debating what I should do for the long weekend. Maybe I'll scare the crap outta my sister: :eek:

Or, I could work up my nerve to ask out Amanda: :D

Wish me luck!