Sort of annoying

***Chip*** · #1 01-19-2002, 11:29 PM

I have this friend of mine who seems to be a bit clingly, so to speak. She follows my girfriend and I to some places like little date things we go on. Sometimes we go on "double dates" with another friend of mine and his girlfriend and this other person sorta decides to tag along. She finds out that we're going somewhere and we can't say no because she gets hurt with every little thing we say. So she tags along and gets kind of annoying after a while because she doesn't listen to the conversation and always asks "what?" after we laugh or something, or she interrupts us with LONG stories of hers that aren't really that amusing. And today she tagged along with us while we went to a movie, which wasn't too bad, but the turning point was afterwards. We were waiting for the bus to go back to the university and she sort of scooted away from us on the bench, then sat close to us, and my girlfriend said, "We didn't want you to sit near us." She said it as a joke and in the most sarcastic voice ever. We all sorta laughed because it was an obvious joke, but our friend didn't find it funny. She walked away and sat by herself for a long time. We decided not to talk to her because she was acting really immature over an obvious joke. About 20 minutes later, we finally talked to her and she was pretty darn upset. She really gets upset over the darndest things. Can anyone tell me what I should say to her about her tagging along and being to hurt by every little thing? I mean, the girl apologizes over everything! She apologized because she compared herself to my girlfriend because some people say they look alike! It's getting to where we can't stand it anymore! Please tell me how I can handle this girl.

antfarm007 · #2 01-19-2002, 11:34 PM

A girlfriend and a girlfriend impersonator? How Cool!!! Just don't talk to the person and walk away...I think they might get the point

**Marcus** · #3 01-20-2002, 12:00 AM

Once again this is taken out of CeDaPoInTzTeRz Book on understanding Gurlz

This is wat you must do. You have to show the stalker gurl that your not wat she thinks you are. You need to take her to the mall or something and act really quite and only talk when she asks you a question, or you can act like a "jerk" and be all sexual and stuff to the point in which she become uncomfortable and tell her if she doesnt have X with you now, your never going to talk to her again. So youll either get rid of her of have X

antfarm007 · #4 01-20-2002, 12:07 AM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by CeDaRPoInTzTeR [/i]
[B]Once again this is taken out of CeDaPoInTzTeRz Book on understanding Gurlz

This is wat you must do. You have to show the stalker gurl that your not wat she thinks you are. You need to take her to the mall or something and act really quite and only talk when she asks you a question, or you can act like a "jerk" and be all sexual and stuff to the point in which she become uncomfortable and tell her if she doesnt have X with you now, your never going to talk to her again. So youll either get rid of her of have X [/B][/QUOTE]

lol, did i hear "restraining order?"

**Marcus** · #5 01-20-2002, 12:30 AM

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by antfarm007 [/i]
[B]

lol, did i hear "restraining order?" [/B][/QUOTE]

If she got a restraining order against him, then he would of acomplished everything he wanted.
Unfortunitly it takes a lot more than someone just taggling along get a restraining order, or else i would have them on half of my family

Anaconda · #6 01-20-2002, 03:20 PM

This is coming from the brain of the wise, old Anaconda from which I draw my strength. (whoa, thats deep and Jungle Bookish, I must take time to think of philosophy more often).

Plan things with your girlfriend in secret. Arrange a time to meet somewhere, go back to your dorms, then meet there, without telling the annoying girl. Also, try and get her a boyfriend, she might be lonely.

RiFT · #7 01-20-2002, 03:49 PM

Plan to do things with your girlfriend without the other girl knowing. I don't see how this is a problem.

And also appologize and explain your girlfriend was only joking when she said that, but that sometimes you two want to be alone. Say it's nothing against the other girl. A couple want to just be with each other at times. She might be hurt at first, because you say she is sensative, but what else can you do?

If you really like this other girl as a friend, make sure to hang out with her sometimes, she probably is lonely. If you don't like her, then just kinda stray away slowly, don't just ignore her or hurt her feelings.

whirl n hurl · #8 01-25-2002, 11:47 PM

Hmmm. I think she might want to be your girlfriend, but she is afraid to come right out and say it. And she does sound lonely. You may have to decide if you want to hang with her at all, and once you know what you want to do, be up front with her and tell her right away. She may be hurt, but it's better than just leaving her hanging or being mean to drive her away.:)

coastergenius100 · #9 01-26-2002, 11:19 AM

Yeah that sounds very annoying.

APJSFR1 · #10 01-26-2002, 12:15 PM

I really could not tell you because I have never had this problem, I would just recommend to your girl friend that you want to be alone sometimes and she could ask the girl to stay home, sorry I have no other advice than that!

***Chip*** · #11 01-26-2002, 01:14 PM

Alrighty! Thanks for all the advice, people. I figure I'm just going to have to let her be hurt if my girlfriend and I want to be alone. If she wants to tag along, I'll tell her just that. Too bad if she gets hurt about it, she should not be that sensitive. Shouldn't someone understand that some people just want to be alone? I'll be sure and post the outcome of this whole situation. It just gets me a little upset that she could get extremely upset over this. Geez, I hope she doesn't like me. That would just be weird.