I'd have to agree with you, BrooklynRider. Certainly they're entitled to some compensation if only to get them through the tough times by having lost not only a loved one, but a financial provider. But seriously! You make an excellent point about families losing loved ones every day through numerous circumstances not their fault.
Let's consider two children -- one whose father was killed in the World Trade Center, one whose father was killed at the exact same time, but in Kansas (just picked a state not involved) by a drunk driver as he went to work that morning. Neither father died through anything they did wrong, but purely by accident. Yes, the father in NY was "risking his life" to do his job, but that's something those men are well aware of when they take those jobs. Yet the child whose father died in the WTC would now stand to not pay taxes, be recognized and awarded for surviving such a tough time, and would even be given scholarships for the event. The child whose father was killed by a drunk, however, would stand to have to battle through legal cases and insurance salesmen in order to get any settlement at all, and certainly there would be no scholarships given to them "just because."
I know it sounds cold and heartless, but come on people... How can you expect to move on with your lives if you're always looking backwards? I don't know how much of the complaining and "grabbing" the actual families involved are doing, but I know that if it were me, I'd have taken enough to keep myself going (and many thanks for it) until I could make up the difference myself, and then I'd not take another penny, no matter what charity or celebrity tried to shove it down my throat.